Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

"A gorgeous pitless account of love, violence and betrayal."

"This was love: a string of coincidences that gathered significance and became miracles"

You hate men, you hate bras, you hate African culture, you think women should always be in charge, you don’t wear makeup, you don’t shave, you’re always angry, you don’t have a sense of humor, you don’t use deodorant.

"...my point is that the only authentic identity for the African is the tribe...I am Nigerian because a white man created Nigeria and gave me that identity. I am black because the white man constructed black to be as different as possible from his white. But I was Igbo before the white man came."

I'm chasing you. I'm going to chase you until you give this a chance.

We have evolved. But our ideas of gender have not evolved very much.

When it comes to dressing well, American culture is so self-fulfilled that it has not only disregarded this courtesy of self-presentation, but has turned that disregard into a virtue. "We are too superior/busy/cool/not-uptight to bother about how we look to other people, and so we can wear pajamas to school and underwear to the mall."

Race doesn't really exist for you because it has never been a barrier. Black folks don't have that choice.

"Is love this misguided need to have you beside me most of the time? Is love this safety I feel in our silences? Is it this belonging, this completeness?"

I often make the mistake of thinking that something that is obvious to me is just as obvious to everyone else.

"There are some things that are so unforgivable that they make other things easily forgivable."

They never said “I don’t know.” They said, instead, “I’m not sure,” which did not give any information but still suggested the possibility of knowledge.