She rested her head against his and felt, for the first time, what she would often feel with him: a… — Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

I'm chasing you. I'm going to chase you until you give this a chance.

When it comes to dressing well, American culture is so self-fulfilled that it has not only disregarded this courtesy of self-presentation, but has turned that disregard into a virtue. "We are too superior/busy/cool/not-uptight to bother about how we look to other people, and so we can wear pajamas to school and underwear to the mall."

Race doesn't really exist for you because it has never been a barrier. Black folks don't have that choice.