Insofar as I have written a self-help book, it is a how-to manual for receptivity: a description of how to… — Andrew Solomon

I started this book to forgive my parents and ended it by becoming a parent. Understanding backward liberated me to live forward.

I want more than anything for my children to be happy, and I love them because they are sad, and the erratic project of kneading that sadness into joy is the engine of my life as a father, as a son, as a friend—and as a writer.

We depend on the guarantee in our children's faces that we will not die. Children whose defining quality annihilates that fantasy of immortality are a particular insult; we must love them for themselves, and not for the best of ourselves in them, and that is a great deal harder to do. Loving our own children is an exercise for the imagination.