Warren Farrell

After a conflict, women are not only more likely to turn to other womenfriends for support, but are nine times more likely to be with their children should conflict become divorce.

Note the men’s fear that if they reported this to the authorities, not only would they not be believed, they would be ridiculed.

The nature of men’s responsibilities distanced men from feelings, whereas the nature of women’s responsibilities encouraged the expression of feelings.

If we have integrity about our desire to support men to express feelings, every institution and attitude between the sexes will require questioning and adjusting.

Humans have spent (10k+) years learning to fight and debate with the other side, and almost no time learning to listen and empathize.

When either sex suppresses the expression of feelings, it’s almost always b/c they don’t feel there is a safe environment to express them.

A man fears that conflict with his wife will lead to less intimacy, not more intimacy.

In more than thirty years of conducting workshops, no one has ever said to me, “Warren, I want a divorce – my partner understands me.”

Our choice of partners is perhaps the clearest single statement of our choice of values. Therefore, when we blame our partner for anything, we should really be confronting ourselves. Not as in “Yes, I made a bad choice,” but as in “How does this choice reflect my values?”

A man becomes successful by repressing his feelings, not expressing his feelings.