# Quote — Warren Farrell, Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say

> Our choice of partners is perhaps the clearest single statement of our choice of values. Therefore, when we blame our partner for anything, we should really be confronting ourselves. Not as in “Yes, I made a bad choice,” but as in “How does this choice reflect my values?”

- Author: [Warren Farrell](https://www.leafyquotes.com/warren-farrell.md)
- Book: [Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say](https://www.leafyquotes.com/warren-farrell/women-cant-hear-what-men-dont-say.md)
- Page: 17
- Source: [Wikiquote](https://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Warren_Farrell#Women_Can't_Hear_What_Men_Don't_Say_(2000)) ([CC BY-SA 4.0](https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/4.0/))
- Quote page: https://www.leafyquotes.com/warren-farrell/women-cant-hear-what-men-dont-say/our-choice-of-partners

## More from this book

> Men learn to call pain “glory”; women learn to call the police.

[Quote page](https://www.leafyquotes.com/warren-farrell/women-cant-hear-what-men-dont-say/men-learn-to-call.md)

> What Men Would Say When Male-Bashing Is Called “Funny,” But Female-Bashing Is Called “Sexist”

[Quote page](https://www.leafyquotes.com/warren-farrell/women-cant-hear-what-men-dont-say/what-men-would.md)

> A week after you read this chapter, misandry will become apparent in commercials, in films, in everyday conversations. But the bias that is hardest to see is the bias we share.

[Quote page](https://www.leafyquotes.com/warren-farrell/women-cant-hear-what-men-dont-say/a-week-after.md)