# Quote — Stephanie Foo, What My Bones Know

> Being healed isn’t about feeling nothing. Being healed is about feeling the appropriate emotions at the appropriate times and still being able to come back to yourself. That’s just life.

- Author: [Stephanie Foo](https://www.leafyquotes.com/stephanie-foo.md)
- Book: [What My Bones Know](https://www.leafyquotes.com/stephanie-foo/what-my-bones-know.md)
- Source: [Wikiquote](https://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Stephanie_Foo#What_My_Bones_Know_(2022)) ([CC BY-SA 4.0](https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/4.0/))
- Quote page: https://www.leafyquotes.com/stephanie-foo/what-my-bones-know/being-healed-isnt

## More from this book

> PTSD is an adaptation, a mechanism our genius bodies evolved to help us survive. (Chapter 43)

[Quote page](https://www.leafyquotes.com/stephanie-foo/what-my-bones-know/ptsd-is-an-adaptation.md)

> Trauma isn’t just the sadness that comes from being beaten, or neglected, or insulted. That’s just one layer of it. Trauma also is mourning the childhood you could have had. The childhood other kids around you had. The fact that you could have had a mom who hugged and kissed you when you skinned your knee. Or a dad who stayed and brought you a bouquet of flowers at your graduation. Trauma is mourning the fact that, as an adult, you have to parent yourself.

[Quote page](https://www.leafyquotes.com/stephanie-foo/what-my-bones-know/trauma-isnt-just.md)

> It takes an intellectual and physical effort to shove aside the comfortably worn neural pathways and go in a different direction.

[Quote page](https://www.leafyquotes.com/stephanie-foo/what-my-bones-know/it-takes-an-intellectual.md)