# Quote — Octavia E. Butler, Adulthood Rites

> “Human beings fear difference,” Lilith had told him once. “Oankali crave difference. Humans persecute their different ones, yet they need them to give themselves definition and status. Oankali seek difference and collect it. They need it to keep themselves from stagnation and overspecialization. If you don’t understand this, you will. You’ll probably find both tendencies surfacing in your own behavior.” And she had put her hand on his hair. “When you feel a conflict, try to go the Oankali way. Embrace difference.”

- Author: [Octavia E. Butler](https://www.leafyquotes.com/octavia-e-butler.md)
- Book: [Adulthood Rites](https://www.leafyquotes.com/octavia-e-butler/adulthood-rites.md)
- Page: 329
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- Quote page: https://www.leafyquotes.com/octavia-e-butler/adulthood-rites/human-beings-fear

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> He thought about that for a moment, wondered what he should say. The truth or nothing. The truth.

p. 501 — [Quote page](https://www.leafyquotes.com/octavia-e-butler/adulthood-rites/he-thought-about.md)

> “I didn’t want to scare you. We don’t want to scare anyone.”
>
> “No? Well, sometimes it’s a good thing to scare people. Sometimes fear is all that will keep them from doing stupid things.”

p. 381 — [Quote page](https://www.leafyquotes.com/octavia-e-butler/adulthood-rites/i-didnt-want.md)

> If you don’t care about my people, why should I care about yours?

p. 383 — [Quote page](https://www.leafyquotes.com/octavia-e-butler/adulthood-rites/if-you-dont.md)