# Quote — Lindsay C. Gibson, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

> People who lacked emotional engagement in childhood, men and women alike, often can’t believe that someone would want to have a relationship with them just because of who they are. They believe that if they want closeness, they must play a role that always puts the other person first.

- Author: [Lindsay C. Gibson](https://www.leafyquotes.com/lindsay-c-gibson.md)
- Book: [Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents](https://www.leafyquotes.com/lindsay-c-gibson/adult-children-of-emotionally-immature-parents.md)
- Source: [Wikiquote](https://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Lindsay_C._Gibson#Adult_Children_of_Emotionally_Immature_Parents:_How_to_Heal_from_Distant,_Rejecting,_or_Self-Involved_Parents_(2015)) ([CC BY-SA 4.0](https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/4.0/))
- Quote page: https://www.leafyquotes.com/lindsay-c-gibson/adult-children-of-emotionally-immature-parents/people-who-lacked

## More from this book

> Children stay in alignment with their true self if the important adults in their lives support doing so. However, when they’re criticized or shamed, they learn to feel embarrassed by their true desires. By pretending to be what their parents want, children think they’ve found the way to win their parents’ love. They silence their true selves and instead follow the guidance of their role-selves and fantasies. In the process, they lose touch with both their inner and outer reality.

[Quote page](https://www.leafyquotes.com/lindsay-c-gibson/adult-children-of-emotionally-immature-parents/children-stay-in-alignment.md)

> They act as though being a parent exempts them from respecting boundaries or being considerate.

[Quote page](https://www.leafyquotes.com/lindsay-c-gibson/adult-children-of-emotionally-immature-parents/they-act-as-though.md)

> Accepting the truth of your feelings and thoughts doesn’t make you a bad person. It makes you a whole person, and mature enough to know your own mind.

[Quote page](https://www.leafyquotes.com/lindsay-c-gibson/adult-children-of-emotionally-immature-parents/accepting-the-truth.md)