Charity is the opium of the privileged, — Chinua Achebe

Do your people have a proverb about a man looking for something inside the bag of a man looking for something?

[W]hatever you are is never enough; you must find a way to accept something, however small, from the other to make you whole and to save you from the mortal sin of righteousness and extremism. (p. 154)

I wouldn't put myself under the democratic dictatorship even of angels and archangels.