For our physiology to calm down, heal, and grow we need a visceral feeling of safety. No doctor can write a… — Bessel van der Kolk
For our physiology to calm down, heal, and grow we need a visceral feeling of safety. No doctor can write a prescription for friendship and love: These are complex and hard-earned capacities. You don't need a history of trauma to feel self-conscious and even panicked at a party with strangers – but trauma can turn the whole world into a gathering of aliens.
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One thing is certain: Yelling at someone who is already out of control can only lead to further dysregulation.
