As I often tell my students, the two most important phrases in therapy, as in yoga, are “Notice that” and… — Bessel van der Kolk
As I often tell my students, the two most important phrases in therapy, as in yoga, are “Notice that” and “What happens next?” Once you start approaching your body with curiosity rather than with fear, everything shifts.
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