# Quote — Andrew Solomon, Far From The Tree

> Insofar as I have written a self-help book, it is a how-to manual for receptivity: a description of how to tolerate what cannot be cured, and an argument that cures are not always appropriate even when they are feasible.

- Author: [Andrew Solomon](https://www.leafyquotes.com/andrew-solomon.md)
- Book: [Far From The Tree](https://www.leafyquotes.com/andrew-solomon/far-from-the-tree.md)
- Page: 701
- Source: [Wikiquote](https://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Andrew_Solomon#Far_from_the_Tree_(2012)) ([CC BY-SA 4.0](https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/4.0/))
- Quote page: https://www.leafyquotes.com/andrew-solomon/far-from-the-tree/insofar-as-i-have

## More from this book

> I started this book to forgive my parents and ended it by becoming a parent. Understanding backward liberated me to live forward.

p. 677 — [Quote page](https://www.leafyquotes.com/andrew-solomon/far-from-the-tree/i-started-this.md)

> I want more than anything for my children to be happy, and I love them because they are sad, and the erratic project of kneading that sadness into joy is the engine of my life as a father, as a son, as a friend—and as a writer.

p. 701 — [Quote page](https://www.leafyquotes.com/andrew-solomon/far-from-the-tree/i-want-more.md)

> We depend on the guarantee in our children's faces that we will not die. Children whose defining quality annihilates that fantasy of immortality are a particular insult; we must love them for themselves, and not for the best of ourselves in them, and that is a great deal harder to do. Loving our own children is an exercise for the imagination.

[Quote page](https://www.leafyquotes.com/andrew-solomon/far-from-the-tree/we-depend-on-the.md)