# Abi Dare - Quotes: 26 - Author page: https://www.leafyquotes.com/abi-dare ## Books - [And So I Roar](https://www.leafyquotes.com/abi-dare/and-so-i-roar.md) — 5 quotes - [The Girl with the Louding Voice](https://www.leafyquotes.com/abi-dare/the-girl-with-the-louding-voice.md) — 21 quotes ## Recently added quotes > That’s the disgusting reality about the human ability to adapt. At first the shock, the repulsion, is all in 3D — sights and sounds and smells. You recoil and gag and wish for a bath and cry at the devastation. Time passes. You live in it. You spend time in it. You blend, and everything fizzles to normalcy, and that which once repulsed slowly becomes natural, acceptable if you do nothing. > > That, I realize, is what culture is: doing things a certain way until you get used to it. [Quote page](https://www.leafyquotes.com/abi-dare/and-so-i-roar/thats-the-disgusting.md) > Kike picks up her basket, sets it on her head, leaves it to balance by itself. The girls in our village learn how to do this from when they are first growing two teeth. They know how to use every part of their body to work so that their hand can be free to do even more work. [Quote page](https://www.leafyquotes.com/abi-dare/and-so-i-roar/kike-picks-up-her.md) > “But you were blind to your wife’s depression and silent resentment. She hid it from you because she loved you. And you were blind to it because society offers you that blindfold, that thick cloth of entitlement, patriarchy, at birth.” [Quote page](https://www.leafyquotes.com/abi-dare/and-so-i-roar/but-you-were.md) > “In our land, a sad wife is better than a happy woman with no husband.” [Quote page](https://www.leafyquotes.com/abi-dare/and-so-i-roar/in-our-land.md) > Trees, they die dead like people too. They need care too. The earth around us needs care. We come from earth, we eat from earth, and one day we must go back to earth, so why are we treating it so bad? [Quote page](https://www.leafyquotes.com/abi-dare/and-so-i-roar/trees-they-die.md) > “My mama say education will give me a voice. I want more than just a voice, Ms. Tia. I want a louding voice,” I say. “I want to enter a room and people will hear me even before I open my mouth to be speaking. I want to live in this life and help many people so that when I grow old and die, I will still be living through the people I am helping.“ [Quote page](https://www.leafyquotes.com/abi-dare/the-girl-with-the-louding-voice/my-mama-say.md) > She open her eyes, give me a sad smile. “I wish I am a man, but I am not, so I do the next thing I can do. I marry a man.” [Quote page](https://www.leafyquotes.com/abi-dare/the-girl-with-the-louding-voice/she-open-her.md) > When she come out, she draw deep breath and her chest, wide like blackboard, is climbing up and down, up and down. It is as if this woman is using her nostrils to be collecting all the heating from the outside and making us to be catching cold. I am standing beside Mr. Kola, and his body is shaking like my own. Even the trees in the compound, the yellow, pink, blue flowers in the long flowerpot, all of them too are shaking. [Quote page](https://www.leafyquotes.com/abi-dare/the-girl-with-the-louding-voice/when-she-come.md) > Who knows what else tomorrow will bring? So, I nod my head yes, because it is true, the future is always working, always busy unfolding better things, and even if it doesn’t seem so sometimes, we have hope of it. [Quote page](https://www.leafyquotes.com/abi-dare/the-girl-with-the-louding-voice/who-knows-what.md) > Not his-story. My own will be called her-story. [Quote page](https://www.leafyquotes.com/abi-dare/the-girl-with-the-louding-voice/not-his-story-my-own.md) > “Your dead mother and me, we are age-mates. God forbid for me to share my husband with my own child. God forbid that I am waiting for you to finish with my husband before I can enter his room. Ah, you will suffer in this house. Ask Khadija, she will tell you that I am a wicked woman. That my madness is not having cure.” [Quote page](https://www.leafyquotes.com/abi-dare/the-girl-with-the-louding-voice/your-dead-mother.md) > “Fifteen years ago, I was selling cheap materials from my boot, going from place to place, looking for customers. I wasn’t born into wealth. I have worked hard for my success. I fought for it. It wasn’t easy, especially because my husband, Chief, he didn’t have a job. If you want to be like me in business, Adunni, you will need to work very hard. Rise about whatever life throws at you. And never, ever give up on your dreams. Do you understand?” [Quote page](https://www.leafyquotes.com/abi-dare/the-girl-with-the-louding-voice/fifteen-years-ago.md)